Is he the one?

From: Love Bytes With Sex Expert Tracey Cox
Thursday, August 09, 2007

Is he the one for you? Relationship experts tend to agree there are five key areas which seem to make or break a relationship. Couples who remain blissfully bonded for life tend to connect on all five, those who match on three or four still enjoy very happy, satisfying relationships, but the couples who struggle to hit two inevitably decide they are barking up the wrong pair of trouser legs and split!

Let’s see how you and your lover score.

The first crucial connection point is:.
Chemistry: does it feel right?
There’s a simple way to tell if you’ve got chemistry with your partner. If you have to think too hard about it, you haven’t! It’s instant: it’s either there right from the start or it develops rapidly. You’ve got chemistry if you find them very, very attractive, you feel like you ‘click’ and your gut instinct on meeting them was a very definite ‘Yes, please!’
Compatibility: how much do you have in common?
Most of us have cultural beliefs and values, even if we aren’t conscious of them, and we tend to match up with someone whose views correspond with ours. Compatibility is about past experiences and future expectations - it’s about identifying with someone so we feel comfortable with them. If you don’t, there could be rough seas ahead.
Common goals: how many do you share?
I’m not just talking about the big things like houses and children. I’m talking about the little ones as well - like wanting to travel together, throwing parties, decorating the house together. Fun stuff! The more goals you set together as a couple, the stronger the relationship. If you work well as a team, it’s a very good sign.
Speed: are you both ‘fast’ or ‘slow’ people?
Fast people juggle a dozen projects at once, talk on the phone while they’re typing on their computer, rarely sit down for more than five minutes and plan on being MD in five years. If that’s you, it’s not a good idea to choose someone whose idea of excitement is watching Cheers re-runs on a Saturday night.
Timing: are you at the same stage in your lives?
This one’s as important as chemistry. You can connect on all the other four but it’s not going to get you anywhere if your timing’s wrong. If you’re 32 and ready to settle down and he’s 26 and still interested in partying or working full-time on his career, it’s pointless. Not so good either if they’ve just come out of a marriage and not looking for commitment but you are. It’s not always about age, by the way, we all mature at different stages. It’s more about wanting the same things from a relationship at the same time.

To my dearest Reyna, this is for you! So those bastards stops hurting you!