A good friend of mine is going through a dilema in her life. Clementine (of course not her real name) is going through a divorce. She's been very unhappy with her soon to be ex-husband due to marital issues they could not resolve. For the rest of the single mothers out there, you know how hard it is to juggle kids and work. It is hard to be a single mom more specially if you have 2 young children. She lives at the other end of the country so all I could do is lend her an ear and to be as supportive as I can on her ordeal.
We caught up a few days ago. We went through several how's who and who's doing who. And of course, end up talking about whats new in her life. She happily said that she thinks she is in love again. I was really happy for her. (I like love stories and whatever drama there is) All I could say at the moment was "GREAT!"
She ended up telling me a bit more about her new found love. We will call her man ... hmmmmm "Ramonok!" (tenks to Matilda) Clementine used to date Ramonok back in college. But as most relationship back in college, they parted ways and moved on with their lives. "He never got married after the break up?" I asked. Apparently, he found someone else and end up marrying Gurlalush (that will be her name). They have children and she is currently residing in Africa with their kids.
My eyebrows raised! I did not jumped to any conclusion. I simply asked her to repeat what she said and followed it with the question "Are they separated?" I was keeping my fingers crossed until she said the word "NO." I was speechless and listened to everyword she was saying. Ramonok told Clementine that his marriage is currently on the rocks! (rock my a&&!!!). "Clementine, it has always been you.", the idiot Ramonok said.
My Biikness got really really pumped up. "So you are his bimbo.", I asked. "Well, most of the men who finds me attractive are usually commited." I was ready to fly to wherever she was and just give her a slight tap on the head. "GAGA KA BA?!" (Are you dumb?) I said to myself. I was not sure what to tell her at that point. For those who does not know me, I do not concede to this. I believe in the saying that you don't do to others what you don't want to be done to you. I believe in HONESTY sometimes it may hurt but at least you are aware.
I hope she can read this right now and know that I am saying this from the bottom of my a&&. I myself do not believe what Ramonok said to her. Men tend to take advantage of womens vulnerability. We women sometimes just jump on that chance and think later. It is the 21st century and we should look at things in different perspectives. We can't keep consuming ourselves with lies and start looking at the big picture ahead. I don't want to believe she is in love. I think its more of the psychological benefit she receive from being intimate with someone. Sex is known to be a mood lifter. Please do not rush into things.
Sometimes in life you could not really see what lies ahead of you. You get side track and stop thinking straight. You just have to take your time (hindi ko ginawa) and see where and what you want for your future. You make your own destiny with the guidance of a powerful force. You just have to search within and figure out which road you would like to take. Don't forget to be true to yourself, you fool no one except youself.
I sure do hope you get your answers and your happiness. Clementine remember there's alot of things around. You just have to broaden your horizon.
yours truely,

Oh diba parang trulily!
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